I just lost my mother; Like literally her funeral was just this past Saturday. I have jokingly said that I’m an orphan now as I also lost my father in October. That’s. Just.10 months ago. Needless to say, I am no stranger to grief and the grieving process. When the opportunity came to pre-order the book Things I Wish Knew Before My Mom Died I jumped at that the chance. Never mind the fact that Ty is what I consider one of my good girlfriends and I witnessed her grief up close and personal. I knew she had a story to tell around the loss of her mother. I had the book for a few days before I decided to try to read it.
Honestly, I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to read the book. My pain is still so new, so raw and the slightest thing will send me into a fit of tears. In spite of my new grief, I poured myself a glass of pinot and made my way through. I “knew” Ty’s story of loss, but I was still amazed at the vulnerability and complete honesty of her book.
Her common themes of crying “thug tears” completely resonated with me and I have not been a stranger to sleeping until 2:00 in the afternoon. So many times while reading the book, I kept wondering- How did she know? Ty manages to cover everything from the blaring focus cast on dysfunctional families when a loved one dies, to the importance of keeping a journal as part of the healing process. She offers witty, heartfelt guidance on navigating what is likely one of the most difficult experiences a woman will ever have to go through. She also drops gems like” Toast to the love of your life… the ones that inspire a special type of love that completely liberates”.
Every woman I know who is a part of this “tribe” needs to read this book. Ty’s words are ministry and reading them has been a part of my healing.
You can order “Things I Wish I Knew” on http://www.xotyalexander.com