Suffering In Silence-Depression

“Sick and tired of being sick and tired” is a universal lamentation of women everywhere. We often don our capes and will gladly take on the role of superwoman but at what cost to our own personal well- being? Weariness is likely a part of our DNA as we readily play the role of mother, wife, sister, lover setting our needs aside to our great personal detriment.

Depression is sometimes difficult to recognize in women because we often have so much on our plates that we rarely take a critical look at our symptoms in order to recognize just how deep the cracks beneath our well-hidden, silent crisis run.

What causes depression?

Depression is a complex disease and can be caused by a number of factors. The loss of a loved one, medications, or even certain illnesses can play a role in the manifestation of the disease. The important thing is to “be still” long enough to recognize a problem may be emerging.
Recognize the signs of depression

I had a friend who practically prayed that a recent visit to the doctor would not only result in the need for surgery, but a long recovery period. She saw nothing wrong with this as she was so tired from her daily routine she viewed surgery, followed by mandatory bed rest as an escape. Though it is normal to “feel a little blue” when you are facing health problems the need to escape from daily life could very well be the sign of something deeper. When I suggested to this friend she may actually be depressed, she fervently denied it and said she simply needed a vacation. My question to her was why not take one then?

Besides needing an escape from daily life, other signs of depression include:
Weight gain, or increased appetite
Weight loss or decreased appetite
Fatigue or very little desire to engage in activities that once gave you pleasure
A sense of worthlessness
Withdrawing from friends and family

Seek help

Admitting that you have a problem is crucial to healing when you are suffering in silence. For many women, this bridge is the most difficult to cross because we see the need to ask for help as an admission of failure or a sign of weakness. This is particularly true of African-American women as the myth of the superwoman is so pervasive in our culture we have sadly begun to believe our own hype. Compound this super woman myth with our tendency to only seek spiritual help and many of us are left suffering from clinical depression that could clearly benefit from the right dose of medication. I am a firm believer in the power of prayer, but prayer combined with the medicine to treat your illness is what will lead to a greater since of well-being.

There is great power in being self aware and recognizing your need for help. Here are some additional resources to help you get back on a path to wholeness.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/takeonestep/depression/resources.html

http://psychcentral.com/resources/Depression/

 

Style Item Of The Week- Somersets Shaving Oil

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Spring has finally sprung and inevitably the warmer temps bring thoughts of shorter hemlines, pedicured toes and just spending more quality time outdoors after weeks of being sucked into the polar vortex. Before you swap out those timbs for sandals de-fuzzing is mandatory and Somersets shaving oil is the perfect product to both moisturize and remove hair all while offering up the most amazing lavender fragrance.

How to use:
Wet area prior to applying oil (about 3 drops) and let oil sit for about 10 seconds- proceed with shaving as you normally would.

Somerset shaving oil retails for 6.99. For more details and info on where to buy visit

http://www.somersetsusa.com

Happy Spring!

Shop Chic For A Cause With Chico’s

Heart Disease continues to be the number one killer of women and although February is drawing to a close, heart health is critical year round.  The folks over at Chico’s have partnered with the American Heart Association in order to fund research around awareness of the disease.

 

This gorgeous Fabulous-at-Heart pin retails for $20.00 and Chico’s has committed to donating half of the proceeds from each pin to research, prevention and education around heart health. So why not Shop for A Cause?

 

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Click here for more information on the American Heart Association

 

In honor of Heart Health Awareness month- here is an interview that I conducted with Raijean Stroud as she talked very candidly about her battle with heart disease:

Interview with Raijean Stroud

Thankful

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I woke up this morning with pitch perfect clarity about the heavy burdens I have been carrying around of late. I recognized that I have entirely too much on my plate, or as my mother often likes to say- I am burning the candle at both ends. I have been so busy doing things that I thought I was supposed to do, that the things that have previously nourished, energized and provided me with an overall sense of wholeness and well-being have been neglected.

 I realize that I am responsible for clearing my plate of things that don’t facilitate my growth or honor me in getting steps closer to my destiny. So on today- I am thankful for strength, courage and wisdom and just like we clear the table at the end of a sustaining meal, I will be emptying my plate of the things that are unfulfilling or keeping me off the path of my divine trajectory.

As we move into the season of giving thanks, I encourage you to recognize there are moments in life you can never get back- restore your self often and spend quality time with the people in your life who nourish, encourage and celebrate you.
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